Florida Agenda

By DR. ARLEN LEIGHT I unexpectedly lost my partner-in-life on Memorial Day. We met in 1980 and, as relationships always do, ours evolved and changed over the passing years. Charles was the love of my life, and I miss him dearly. It’s hard to imagine my life without him. My professional career and my book, [...]

By Arlen Leight, PhD I can’t tell you how many times I have been asked, “Why does it seem that as soon as I get close to someone, they seem to back away?,” and “Why are many of the men I date so clingy or needy?” The answers to these questions can be varied and [...]

By Arlen Leight , Ph.D. There are many of us in the fields of mental health and self-help who understand that basic unhappiness is primarily related to how we think about ourselves. Self-esteem and selfworth are basically the result of two major components. First, there is a demonstrated competence and success in areas of life [...]

By Arlen Leight , Ph.D.   A diagnosis of prostate cancer is a frightening prospect for both men and their partners. Unfortunately, most physicians treating for prostate cancer never inform their gay patients that the implications will impact gay male sex differently than for straight male sex. The result can be uninformed, under-informed, or misinformed [...]

BY Arlen Leight , Ph.D. You cannot pick up a magazine or watch a television show today without some advertisement for so-called “E.D.” treatment. Erectile disorder is often called erectile dysfunction or impotence and is the most common sexual disorder for men. Ironically, “dysfunction” and “impotence” inaccurately and often inadvertently contribute to a man’s feeling [...]

By ARLEN KEITH LEIGHT, PH.D. Two middle aged men looking for a long term, committed relationship chat on Match.com and decide to meet for coffee. Tom and Roger are both good-looking, intelligent, and personable. They have a very nice conversation. Roger is very interested in Tom, but Tom is less than excited. Of course Roger [...]

By ARLEN KEITH LEIGHT, PH.D. Just as individuals go through predictable stages of adult development, so do relationships. These stages precipitate conflicts as well as clashes of needs. Mature relationships often bring on a sense of boredom or a feeling that the individuals have “grown apart.” While commitment may be strong, communication may have deteriorated [...]

By ARLEN LEIGHT, PhD The short-lived relationship was rocky at best. You initially thought this man was really for you. Thinking about him made you feel whole, happy, and hopeful. He showed great interest in being with you. He had some great qualities, but right from the start you knew there were some “issues.” Being [...]