I am probably the most single person you will ever meet. So when I was asked to lead the charge on this special wedding issue, I didn’t expect to fall in love with the process. Ask my office mates who had to deal with the sounds of me sobbing watching the viral proposals on YouTube. Just you wait until you read our six local love stories. The devotion and admiration between these six gay couples would make even the hardest skeptic believe in the power of love.
In 2015, I had the special privilege to be the maid of honor at my sister’s wedding. My sister may be straight, but she has been a huge ally for the LGBTQ community even before I came out. She was the co-creator of our high school’s Gay Straight Alliance in the mid-90s, and ever since my coming out has accepted my gayness with love and support.
So it was only fitting that the day before her nuptials, same sex marriage became legal. We were sitting around the kitchen table with the rest of her wedding party after a busy morning of getting a barn ready to be a wedding hall. All of a sudden, someone yelped with joy that marriage equality was finally a reality, and we all quickly turned to our phones to read news articles and post about the decision on Facebook.
Later that night, I sat down to write my maid of honor speech. Because marriage equality was not only an important moment for me, but for everyone in our modern family – I added quotes from Justice Anthony Kennedy’s historic opinion:
The nature of marriage is that, through its enduring bond, two persons together can find other freedoms, such as expression, intimacy, and spirituality. This is true for all persons, whatever their sexual orientation. No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death.
Today, we are in the middle of a golden age of gay weddings. Whether you are newly engaged or newly single, may you find inspiration from the words and pages of this very special wedding issue.
– Contributing Editor, Alexander Kacala
Photo by JJ Tiziou Photography.